Let’s face it. Divorce is so common these days, it’s natural to think that there is no hope for you to save your marriage once it hits the skids.
The good news is that there are reasons to believe that you can bring your marriage back from the brink of divorce. And it gets better than that because you can use the opportunity to build an even closer and richer relationship than you had before.
Sounds too good to be true? I’m here to tell that saving your marriage is possible because in the late 1980′s, the National Survey of Families and Households in the US tracked 645 spouses who rated their marriages as “unhappy.” But for those who agreed to put off their divorces and give their marriages a second chance, they rated their marriage as “happy” five years later.
So the morale of that story is that if you can just set your heart on investing some time to work through your problems with your spouse, you can save your marriage. And if you don’t know how to start, let the 3 tips below help you along.
Find Your Love For Your Partner Again
Here’s a fact… No matter how much a married couple argues, they still have basic respect and concern for each other. Think about it, didn’t you choose to marry your partner because you saw a decent amount of good qualities in him/her?
Let me assure you that those same qualities you saw are still there, though you might not see them as clearly today because his/her other less appetizing personality traits seemed to overshadow the good qualities.
Try to remember the good times so that you can revive those positive feelings you once had for him/her. That’s how you start to save your marriage, by using those positive feelings as a springboard for making up.
Take The Initiative to Save Your Marriage
You may have a misconception that rescuing your marriage can only start when your partner starts at the same time as you. But that’s just not true.
It’s true that both sides have to give up the idea of divorce eventually, but you can start by taking the steps to turn things around and buy a little time while your partner reconsiders making up.
When you start by changing your approach to your spouse, he/she will naturally change his/her behaviour, too. And that starts a positive cycle of improvement toward saving your marriage.
Get The Right Advices From The Right Sources
It’s inadvisable to just rely on your own judgment to save your marriage because not only are you too close to the problem, many emotionally charged issues can blind you and cause you to overreact no matter how stable and logical you think you are.
That’s when the input from a knowledgeable and neutral third party becomes invaluable. Though a marriage counsellor is the ideal choice, you can always rely on other sources of advice like marriage self-help books that are available online or at your local bookstore if you can’t afford a counsellor of if your partner refuses to see the counsellor together with you.
Before you start thinking that there’s no way to save your marriage, take a deep breath and look at the realities. Start by finding your love for your partner again, then take the initiative to move towards working on your marriage before you finish it by getting the right advices from the right sources. Then you’ll start seeing that there’s indeed hope to save your marriage.