How to keep things civil during child visitation

Posted in Divorce.

After going through a Florida divorce with kids, you’ll have to deal with child visitation, and if you don’t get along with your ex-spouse, there is always the potential for drama. You don’t have to be best buds with your spouse by any means, but there are some basic rules you should follow to keep things civil during your new life without your ex.

• Don’t let your ex get under your skin—After a divorce, particularly a nasty divorce, it’s easy to be really bitter toward your ex-spouse. All of that hostility builds up over time, and it doesn’t take much for it to come out and lead to a fight whenever dealing with your ex. For the sake of your kids, you can’t let your ex get under your skin. Stop arguments before they start, and try your best to keep any conversations positive and focused on your children.
• Don’t pry into their personal life—You can’t help but be a little curious as to what’s going on in your ex’s personal life, but do your best to avoid the temptation to pry. Finding out your ex has moved on and gotten with someone else will likely only serve to anger and hurt you. And whatever you do, don’t interrogate your children during their visitation by asking them what the other parent is up to, who they’re seeing, etc. Never put your kids in the middle of your drama.

• Don’t talk badly about your ex to your kids—It’s important that your kids have the opportunity to spend quality time and have great relationships with each parent. Don’t try to drive a wedge between your kids and your ex. It’s not fair to them, and in the end, they’re the ones who will suffer because of it. Never badmouth your ex-spouse in front of your kids. They still love both of their parents, and you don’t have the right to interfere with their relationships.

• Be as polite as you can be—It really all boils down to finding a way to bite your tongue, swallow your pride, and be as polite as you can to your ex. Your kids don’t need to see the two of you fighting whenever they’re being dropped off or picked up. Fighting will make your children believe that they’re the problem, and that’s simply not fair to them. Be polite, and avoid the temptation to provoke your ex with little verbal jabs.

Above all else, cherish the time you get to spend with your kids. Divorce is hard on everyone, but it’s hardest on the children. So, it’s your job to be as good of a parent as you can be and to make sure your time of child visitation goes smoothly.
If you ever have any questions about your child visitation arrangement, you may wish to consult with a Florida divorce law firm who can go over the details of your divorce to ensure your visitation rights are being upheld.

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