Many relationships, today, are at a critical point with couples wondering how to save a failing marriage before it gets to the point of no return. If you are reading this article it is obvious you have recognized that your marriage is in some form of trouble, perhaps it is even in a serious crisis.
I want to share with you six practical, yet very powerful, steps of how to save a failing marriage. I guarantee that if you follow these steps religiously, and don’t deviate from them, you will begin to experience a noticeable change in your marriage in a very short time. And you can start implementing these immediately, as soon as you finish reading this. If you truly want to save your relationship you will begin with these tips:
1. Get Back to the Golden Rule. ”Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.” And to serve our purpose, go ahead and put your spouses name where the word “others” is. It is a simple yet, too often, forgotten rule of life and is nowhere needed more than within the relationship of marriage. When you feel like yelling, speak quietly. When you feel like criticizing, encourage, etc. I think there should be a Golden Rule of Marriage and it should be this: “Do to Your Spouse Before They Can Do it to You.” And this is always in the positive, constructive, loving and caring sense. For instance: Do the dishes (or other household chores) before she/he does. Bring flowers or candy home out of the blue one day. Run a bath for your spouse while they are still busy and then relieve them of what they’re doing. Think one step ahead of your spouse and then do something you know would help them and/or just plain make them happy. The sky is the limit here. I love this phrase: “Do random acts of senseless kindness”. I promise you if you will start to live this principle in your marriage, you are going to be amazed at the results.
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2. Refrain from Negativity. There is nothing worse than being around a negative person. They just suck the life right of things and leave an air of discouragement and depression behind. You need to put a stop to negativity immediately. It is one of the biggest relationship killers. Instead of discouraging words speak encouragement. In place of tearing your spouse down, build her/him up. Replace every negative thought and word with a positive one. So often we have gotten into such a negative mindset over the years it just becomes a routine way of responding. You need to get out of this rut and train yourself to be positive, encouraging and upbeat. Quite seeing the cup half empty all the time… it’s not half empty, it’s half full! How to save a failing marriage is not complicated and it can start with just switching off the negativity. You will be pleasantly surprised at the new life that is injected into your relationship simply from refraining from negativity.
3. Don’t Point the Finger. Nothing productive ever comes from blaming your spouse when problems arise. Instead, be proactive in working with her/him to find solutions. And when the urge to point the finger comes on, remember… three are always pointing back at you! Marriage takes two, and 9 times out of 10, a marital problem or issue involves both of you. Be quick to see your fault or contribution to the problem and do what you need to do to work on yourself, instead of immediately shifting the blame onto your spouse and highlighting her/his issues.
4. Be Appreciative. Go out of your way to show that you appreciate your spouse and who she/he is and what she/he does. Always be saying “thank-you” even for the smallest things. When you feel like complaining… don’t. Kids complain, not grown married people – at least they shouldn’t, it’s immature. And be quick to apologize when you need to. No matter how big or small the reason, just offer a simple, heart-felt, “I’m sorry honey…” Be your spouses number one fan. When you complement and praise your spouse, you help to build their self-esteem and when one feels valued and appreciated they begin to respond in positive ways. Forming a habit of appreciation will enrich your lives and bring a new and fresh aspect to your marriage that will be so rewarding. It should definitely be part of your over-all plan of saving your marriage.
5. Hang Out Together. Too often our lives get so busy that we neglect the ones that mean the most to us. You must find a way to spend quality time with your spouse. Come up wit