Posting pictures of your mistress on your Facebook while your divorce is still pending? Badmouthing your spouse on Twitter during your divorce? Angrily making threats online about how you’re going to keep the kids and never bring them back?
These are all things your spouse’s divorce lawyer will love to see.
Believe it or not, social networking has changed the way today’s divorce cases are being handled. Oversharing on social networks provides evidence that can be used against you in your divorce case. In fact, one study released by The American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers found that more than 4 out of 5 of its members have used evidence found on social networking sites in their cases.
What kind of things can lawyers find on Facebook and other social networking sites to use against you in your divorce proceedings?
• Pictures and messages that prove infidelity
• Forcing your kids to defriend the other parent
• Slander and libel against the spouse
• Documentation that you were somewhere you shouldn’t have been (e.g. out partying when you should have been watching the kids)
• Evidence of engaging in illegal activity (e.g. a picture of you doing drugs)
• Pictures that show poor parenting decisions (e.g. playing with a gun right next to your kid)
The list could go on and on, but you get the point. Anything you share online can and likely will be used against you in your Florida divorce case. By posting these things, you’re making it easier than ever for opposing attorneys to discover damaging evidence against you.
You have to remember that Facebook, Twitter, MySpace, LinkedIn, your blog, and all other online sites are real life. There is no disconnect. You are fully accountable for anything you post online.
That’s why your best bet is to always avoid posting anything that could possibly be used against you. If you’re angry at your spouse and want to say something really nasty, don’t post it online. If you’re thinking about posting anything that you wouldn’t want a judge to hear, don’t post it.
Remember, just because you might not be “friends” online with your spouse anymore doesn’t mean that other people won’t see what you’re posting and share it with them. Friends tend to take sides during divorces, so someone that you thought might be on your side could actually be telling your spouse about the things you’re posting online.
The bottom line is this: Don’t post anything that can be used against you online. And while you’re at it, update the privacy settings on your social networking pages so that the general public can’t just easily access all of your information so easily.
If you have any questions about social networking as it relates to your divorce case, make sure to talk to your lawyer about it. A good divorce lawyer understands the implications of social networking and can provide you with sound advice to help you avoid making any costly mistakes online.