How to turn a girl on? What are the things that can make her orgasm? There is no real road map for a woman to get an orgasm, but these directions are as close to a guarantee as they come.
Differences between Male and Female Orgasm
For men, the most important thing to take note is female orgasm is not a mechanical thing, as it is generally for men. Most men can ejaculate quickly when they ‘play’ with the extra load between their legs, even if the circumstances are not very romantic.
Another big difference between male and female orgasm is after the 1st climax, she can have the 2nd or 3rd one, often within a minute or two. This ability is very rare in males. Very few young women can achieve multiple orgasms because it is an ability that usually has to be learned. However, with the help of a skilled lover, most women can eventually achieve the capacity for multiple orgasms.
Although every woman is different, many women need the following to increase the likelihood of getting an orgasm:
(1) A conducive and romantic atmosphere
If you want to help her get in the mood, you have to make sure that everything is comfortable and nice for her. Treat the place of lovemaking as a performing stage where you need the right lighting (dim lights), right mood, right props and costumes. You can set the scene for intimacy with soft and sensual music, scented-candles (or fill the room with warm, relaxing odor), soft fabrics and sexy toys
(2) A feeling of being wanted and appreciated
She needs to have this feeling in order to feel and act sexy. At all times, you have to be an understanding and supportive partner to help her cope with the daily stress. This will increase your intimacy with her and get her to be more connected to you emotionally and sexually.
What better way to do this than to ask and observe her. Do not assume that you know everything about your partner and that your technique is flawless. If she does not come, then you think it must be her fault. Lots of guys think that because a previous girlfriend always came in a certain way, the same should apply to other girls. Women are not all the same in their likes or dislikes. The best sex tip is to treat your partner as an individual.
Ask her an open-ended question and be supportive of whatever answer she gives or she will never open up again. Always let her know that you are willing to pleasure her. If you are not sure about how to please a woman sexually, you should ask and allow her hands to guide you.
You can learn a lot by watching how she stimulates herself or by listening to her when she suggests a sex position, or a particular way of touching. Even if she does not clearly express it, you can judge her level of arousal by her breathing. Short and rapid breathing means that she is excited.
(3) She needs plenty of hugs and kisses
Women like much more foreplay than you can imagine. Unless she is real horny or you are going for quickie lovemaking or outdoor sex, you cannot skip this step. Every woman wants to feel that her man is very keen on giving her pleasure and not just in a hurry to finish his job. The worst thing a man can say to a woman is: “Haven’t you come yet?” This can make her feel very inadequate and will ruin any build-up of sexual pleasure and tension that may have been happening. So, do give her lots of kisses and hugs before you even think about making any approach to her sexual area.
(4) Gradual and indirect approach is the best
Please keep this in your mind – contrary to what many men think – sexual intercourse by itself is not likely to produce an orgasm. This is because intercourse alone is not very good at stimulating a woman’s clitoris. Most women need extra stimulation of the clitoris by fingers and/or mouth. Stimulation of the clitoris is the key to female orgasm.
When you do start to stroke, rub or kiss her genitals, do not rush for her clitoris. You need to 1st stimulate the area surrounding her clitoris especially at the 10 o’ clock and 2 o’ clock area, her inner thighs, her buttocks (which have lots of nerve endings), the outskirts of her anus, etc.
This is necessary in order to create the tension and anticipation as well as letting her clitoris to be prepared for your final assault. It is only when you observe her breathing gets more rapid, her body starts arching towards you which is the green light for you to offer direct stimulation of her clit